Friday, March 2, 2012

And We Have an Answer


Arabella has been through a slew of tests recently because her new pediatrician in Maryland was still wary of the events in Arabella’s life all just being a coincidence.  Bella has had feeding issues, short stature, and physical development issues.  Now, she’s fine.  Tiny, but fine.  However, our pediatrician still thought it was worth having a little bit of genetic testing done.  I’ve always been grateful for having cautious doctors who recommend further treatment or investigation and I wasn’t about to stop that trend now. 

We went to Johns Hopkins and had some testing done after our initial meeting with the geneticists.  Bella had vials of blood drawn, a full body of x-rays, an ultrasound of her abdomen and all of the organs in that area, another set of x-rays, and an echocardiogram performed.  What did the doctors find?

X-rays: normal, with a bone age of 3 (2 standard deviations from normal which is in a normal range)
Ultrasound: normal.  All of her organs are in the right place and the right size and shape.
Echocardiogram: Normal…mostly.  Each person has three valves that stem from the aorta for blood flow, but Bella has two that look partial fused together.  I’m not really sure about this.  We will find out a lot more at our follow up visit.
Blood work: Body parts are functioning normal, BUT, Bella’s chromosomes are different from a normal girl’s chromosomes.

This week we found out what Bella may or may not have: Turner syndrome.  Syndrome is a scary word, but it doesn’t have to be.  All syndrome means is that there is a set of symptoms that are common to a particular condition.  Turner syndrome has a set of characteristics that apply to the girls who have it.  These girls may have some or all of the characteristics and the characteristics may be mild or more obvious.  Bella has been fortunate enough to have very few and very mild characteristics thus far.  In fact, the characteristics are mild enough in her that the doctors of the genetics clinic want to take one more vial of blood to look at her chromosomes more closely to be completely sure of what they are diagnosing. 

Turner’s is something that occurs only in women and is becoming more common in the sense that more and more doctors know what to look for in a patient.  To give you an idea, here are some facts:
  • TS affects 1/ 2,500 live female births.
  • There are over 71,000 women and girls living with TS across the United States.  Over 300,000,000 people live in the US.
  • It is estimated that only about 1% of fetuses with only one X chromosome survive to term and that approximately 10% of all miscarriages are due to Turner syndrome.
  • Diagnosis of Turner syndrome is confirmed by a blood test called a karyotype, which analyzes the chromosomal composition of the individual.
What does our future hold with this diagnosis?  Well, initially it just means monitoring and more doctor visits.  Bella will now have a cardiologist, as heart problems are common in Turner patients, and an endocrinologist, because of growth is always an issue for Turner patients.  Other parts of her body will be more closely looked at during checkups (some yearly, some not).  When she comes to the typical age of puberty, we will discuss how we want to add estrogen to her hormone regiment.  There is a very small chance she will go through puberty like normal, but it is unlikely.  The real question will be when to start estrogen, as it is an essential hormone to a woman’s body.  As she reaches adulthood, she will have to decide how she feels about having children and what she is willing to go through to have a child. 

Things are going to be complicated, but completely manageable.  Am I happy to have this diagnosis?  Once we have verified it, yes and no.  I am happy to find out  what’s going on and to be able to have a plan, but there are some aspects of this syndrome that are sad to think about.  For now, we’ll continue to live life as normally as we had before.  If we didn’t tell anyone Bella has Turner syndrome, I’m pretty certain no one would know the difference.  She’s happy and healthy and I can’t ask for anything more. 

It's been a long week

It has been a miserable week.  A very close friend has her son in the hospital and he's been in a hospital since he was born almost 3 months ago.  His future is very unclear right now and it's very heartbreaking to watch her go through all of this.  She has an amazing support system, which I am so grateful that she does, but I know these past months have not been easy for her.  She and her family are always in my thoughts and I just want to see them happy again. 

Also, this week we found out a possibility for what's been going on with Bella.  It is most likely the diagnosis we will get, but the doctors are going to take one more vial of blood to examine more closely.  They want to be 100% sure of what they are diagnosing before we meet again and talk about what we will do next.  For more information on that, move on to the next post.

Change

Recently, I talked with a good friend about our kids leaving the baby stage and entering the next phase of life.  This is the time when many women (and men, even) consider having another kid.  Even those of us how prefer the toddler stage miss things about having a newborn or little infant. 

I don't particularly miss the helplessness that a newborn has while learning how to move and eat and do everything else besides lying there, making noise, and pooping.  However, when that goes out the window, the cuddles and dependency often does, too.  My kids are that type, no doubt.  Bella cherishes her independence and wants to do everything on her own.  Jude is making his way there. 

So, I can see that I probably would have gone through massive baby fever around this time with Bella, but I ended up not missing a beat.  Jude was here by the time Bella started running away from me.  Now that Jude is hitting that phase, I have a much appreciated calm about the situation.  These will never stop needing me. I know that.  I love that.  They will get older, though, and do more and more on their own and need me for different things.  My role as mommy will always be changing and I'm ready to fill that role in whatever way I can. 

For now, the mommy in me is very settled into this phase of life.  I don't have the baby fever that other parents might when their first is moving past being a baby and becoming a toddler.  Will I ever be in that phase again?  I don't know.  Things are always changing here and plans to have another child (no matter what I might want them to look like) will change, too.  Right now, it's all about appreciating what I have and the life I've been given.  I try to spend a little time everyday thinking about that, because you never know when your life will change, for better or for worse.

Friday, January 13, 2012

One A Month: 7 months to 1 year

Part 2 of Jude's first year.  Here we go!

August 2011

Jude is beginning to pull up on things, gets his second tooth, and has his first move (to MD).



 September 2011

Jude is becoming interested in books, goes to his first carnival, and is cruising around all the furniture.

October 2011

Jude begins to imitate sounds, goes trick or treating for the first time, gets 4 more teeth, and celebrates his sister's second birthday.

















November 2011

Jude eats his first big meal at Thanksgiving.

















December 2011

Jude celebrates his first Christmas, begins to say words (yeah, dada, baba in context), starts to stand alone.

















January 2012

Jude is beginning to walk!  Jude moves into his first new house (well, our house) and celebrates his first birthday (next week!!!).

One A Month: Birth through 6 months

We have one more week of Jude being our official baby.  Then he'll be one and officially be a toddler.  He's begun to walk just a bit, but still isn't set on doing so full time, so we'll still classify him as our baby for now :).

In honor of this coming occasion, I'm taking a look back at our little man's first year (part 1).

January 2011

Jude's biggest first: Birth!






Here he is at 4 days old.










 February 2011

Jude's first outing to church and over to Mimi's house (my mommy).  First bath in a tub.
March 2011

Jude has his first smile, is sleeping through the night, and grasping objects.











April 2011

Jude is rolling over (back to tummy), mini push-ups, passing a toy from one hand to the other.

















May 2011

Jude is rolling both ways, got baptized, eating rice cereal and veggies (baby food), taking his first road trip (to Tulsa).
June 2011

Jude is rolling to get somewhere, holding his bottle, eats fruit (baby food), finds his toes, army crawls, gets up to his hands and knees then rock back and forth.
July 2011

Jude is drinking from a cup, sitting up on his own, crawling, getting his first tooth!